“And Lead Us Not Into Temptation”
The following is the ninth of twelve monthly
reflections about the phrases of the “Lord’s Prayer” and what they tell us
about family life.
As
with most typical offices with a reception area, the office where I work has a
container of mints at our front desk.
These candies, of course, connote hospitality to those who visit us or
give guests a chance to freshen their breath when coming to us for a
meeting. The problem with these mints is
that they are borderline addictive. They
are not the run of the mill, hardened peppermint circles that have a shelf life
rivaling an army MRE meal. No, these are
soft, buttery, sweet mints that practically melt in your mouth the moment they
touch your tongue and leave you seriously wondering what everyone would think
if you ate one, two, or ten more. While
the mints are there to welcome guests, they also serve a second purpose:
tempting all who work near them. It is a
real challenge to get through the day, walking back and forth near the candy
dish and each time to continue towards my destination without putting a mint in
my pocket. Even with the knowledge that
too many mints leads to things like cavities and tight pants, I have a hard
time turning away. That is the
difficulty of temptation. We often sense
the result of a particular action will not end well for us, but the lure of the
temporary gratification sometimes proves too great for our willpower.
In
one of the most instructive stories in the gospels, Jesus experienced
temptation in the desert. Satan tempts
him with promises of food, proof of God’s favor, and earthly power, but Jesus
is able to take the long view. He knows that
all that the devil offers is fleeting, that he would be hungry again, that
testing God is a sign of a weakened faith, and that human allegiance is
fickle. We can learn a great deal from
Jesus in this story. Though we
thankfully would not expect Satan to visit us in person and tempt us, we all
experience the glamour of evil. Like
Jesus, we need to see past the immediate actions and consequences during
temptation and consider the long-term implications.
How
do we prepare for temptation, which sometimes comes upon us unexpectedly? The best answer I have found is that we must
pay attention to our habits, no matter how small. The little daily decisions of our life lead
to virtue or vice depending on their orientation. My behavior towards my office mints will say
something about my ability to turn away when other, more significant food
choices come my way. Of course, there
are much more serious things in life than overeating office mints.
Think of
adultery for example. This is something
that has the potential to damage a marriage and family beyond repair. How do I prevent such a tragedy in my own
life? It is not about waiting for an
opportunity of adultery to present itself and then hoping I am strong enough to
withstand it. Instead, it is about the
little ways that I control my habits that would leave me in a much better place
to resist temptation should it ever occur.
The websites and movies I avoid, the jokes from which I refrain, the
ways I pay attention to my eyes and words when interacting with a woman—all
these contribute to the building of good habits that leave me better positioned
in the face of temptation. Of course, I
do not do these things perfectly, and a collection of bad habits leads to
vice. Therefore, timely contrition and
confession is another good habit that leads to greater virtue.
One
final curious thing about our phrase of the Lord’s Prayer today is the idea of
requesting that God not lead us into moments of temptation. Considering Jesus “was led by the Spirit into
the desert to be tempted by the devil,” (Mt. 4:1) we may wonder what God is
planning in all this. It seems to me
that God at times allows us to endure temptation for a greater purpose. Jesus, after all, spent his time in the
wilderness before embarking on his public ministry that would eventually demand
his life. Preparation for such a task is
essential. Thus, perhaps God’s
permitting us to endure moments of temptation is a way of helping us to build
good habits so that when the times of intense temptation arise, we are equipped
and ready to handle them. While it would
never be God’s desire that we should fall into sin, we must remember that this
is exactly Satan’s desire for us.
Building our will, self-control, awareness, and good habits through
lesser temptations gives us a fighting chance when we really feel the strain of
a difficult moral decision. We must
strive to be like Jesus in this respect, withstanding temptation and staying
true to our vocational mission. No
opportunity is too small to contribute to this good effort, even if it is the
bowl of mints at the office!